Some often-told stories speak to every one of us. Like this one:
Picture the new teacher who comes into a new classroom. Truth is, even veteran teachers each year come into the unknown. Each one faces a sea of eager (or bored) students, mostly strangers to them.
Suppose the new teacher, for whatever reason, believes students assigned to his or her classroom are super-bright. What a privilege it will be to teach these high-achievers and give them the kind of instruction they deserve!
Those kids respond and blossom and turn in exceptionally good work. Teacher is happy and students are happy.
Peace reigns, day after day.
Near the end of the school year this teacher discovers the truth
These kids were not "gifted." Just the opposite. Everyone from the principal on down considered them to be chronic behavior problems. "Somehow" they all ended up with the new teacher.
Long-time teachers secretly rejoiced that somebody else got stuck with these "troubled learners." They knew how these kids struggled in class and got sent to the principal's office on a regular basis. Every teacher and faculty member who tried to help ended up frustrated. None would admit it out loud, but these kids simply were being moved on through the system.
Small wonder the old guard laughed when the newbie teacher treated these youngsters as if they were high-achievers. After awhile they stopped being amused. Wonder of wonders, those "loser" students began to live up to their teacher's expectations--and then some.
In real life it never works out this neatly, of course.
But what if it could? What if it did?
Perhaps we need to take a fresh look at the people in our lives. Our spouses. Our children. Our friends and extended families. The people we work with and interact with in our everyday activities.
Have we fitted them neatly into a box because we "know" their capabilities or lack of same?
Have we given them labels based on the past instead of on who they are today?
It's disturbingly easy to get stuck in what they--and we--used to be. It helps to pretend you've just met and ask yourself, "Who is this person?"
You may be surprised at what you find.
Sometimes we do the same thing with ourselves
Every now and then it's good to ask ourselves, Who am I today?
If that sounds like a strange thing to do, just pause and think how often you say, "I never," or, "I always."
Maybe that phrase once was true, but is it an accurate description today?
Probably more than we realize, what we expect is what will happen, over and over--with others and with ourselves.
We all know the saying, "What you see is what you get."
The truth of those words apply in so many areas of living, especially in our relationships. People tend to live up to our expectations. So do you and I in our self-appraisal of who we are and what we can do.
The Apostle Paul tells us how to get a new outlook on ourselves and on other people--in 2 Corinthians 5:17 and in Ephesians 4:32:
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God has forgiven you.
That's the Good News of the Christian faith if we put our trust in Jesus Christ as our Savior. That's true no matter how many times we failed. It's not about how great we are or all we've been able to accomplish. HE is the one who makes us new. All we need to do is believe this is true.
Our outlook on other people changes, too. We're able to stop thinking they should live up to how we view them. Because of these same promises we can let go of old hurts and expectations.
As usual, it starts with the eyes of our heart and how we choose to see others and ourselves. Here's to looking--and seeing--with new eyes.
Still learning, too,
Lenore
